The Body Remembers, and It Can Relearn
The Body Remembers - and It Can Relearn
by Jonn Close, Somatic Sex Therapist & Counsellor – Body Curious
Our nervous system is shaped by repetition. Each time we contract, shut down, or avoid feeling, those neural pathways strengthen. But the same is true for expansion, curiosity, and pleasure. Through conscious, embodied practice, we can literally retrain the brain to associate safety, warmth, and connection with the very sensations that once triggered discomfort or fear.
The brain is neuroplastic — like plasticine, it can be changed and remoulded. But this doesn’t happen through thought alone. True transformation occurs through experience — by bringing awareness, breath, and movement together. This integrated attention allows new neural connections to form, changing how we relate to the body, our emotions, and our inner narratives where the Body keeps the score!
The Foundation: Embodied & Sensorimotor Practice
At Body Curious, we teach embodied practices and other sensorimotor techniques as the foundation for all somatic interventions. These approaches help clients regulate their nervous system, develop sensory awareness, and create the safety required for deeper healing. From this base, each person can explore and re-pattern what they most need — whether it’s confidence, connection, or pleasure.
The Men I Work With
As a therapist, I see men of all ages with a wide range of personal inquiries — from sexual function challenges such as lack of pleasure, rapid ejaculation, difficulty ejaculating, or erectile challenges, to experiences of trauma, disability, post surgery / cancer, body dysmorphia, shame, and loneliness. Many struggle with communicating needs or navigating a relationship with themselves or others. Others simply feel lost in the changing dynamics of modern masculinity — shaped by social media, comparison, and constant performance pressure.
And for some, the inquiry is not about fixing something but expanding what’s possible — to feel more pleasure in their bodies, to become multi-orgasmic, or to reconnect with their erotic vitality as a pathway to greater confidence and wellbeing.
In my experience, clients who commit to consistent body practice achieve the most positive outcomes. Like any new skill, it requires repetition, patience, and the willingness to change — to grow into a better, more integrated version of yourself.
The Core Practice: Feel, Breathe, Reframe
Notice what you are experiencing – It might be tension, self-criticism, or numbness.
Stay Present – Breathe into the sensation instead of trying to fix or escape it.
Invite Softness – Place a hand where you feel the strongest charge. Slow your breath and imagine warmth spreading through that area.
Reframe the Meaning – Instead of “something’s wrong,” try “something’s waking up.”
Let Pleasure In – Notice any flicker of comfort, aliveness, or relief — even subtle — and let it expand.
This is neuroplasticity in action: the rewiring of brain–body pathways through embodied awareness, repetition, and safety.
From Survival to Surrender
Many men live in survival mode — caught in fight, flight, or freeze — managing shame, stress, performance, and constant striving. The mind races, the body tightens, and pleasure fades. Yet this same energy, when met with awareness and intention, can be transformed.
This small act of awareness — integrated with thought and intention — is the beginning of rewiring. Pleasure tells the nervous system: You are safe now. Over time, the body begins to trust that safety, and the cycle of survival gives way to presence, sensitivity, ease and the new norm.
Integration: Practice It Daily
Try pausing for 60 seconds each day to notice one pleasurable sensation — warmth in your hands, sunlight on your skin, the sound of your own breath. This simple act is enough to begin the process of remapping the nervous system.
Over time, pleasure becomes not something we pursue, but something we allow.
At Body Curious, this is the essence of somatic therapy: helping men feel safe enough to feel — to turn the body’s old stories into new pathways of vitality, trust, and connection.
Ready to explore how somatic therapy can help you reconnect with your body and pleasure?
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